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Can a supportive partner help you deal with depression?

A recent study has found decline in the impact of depression and external stress when the romantic partner is responsive and accepting

Having a responsive partner seems to protect individuals with depression or external stress against a sharp drop in relationship quality, the study states. (iStock)

If you have a responsive and supportive partner, you have a much better chance of dealing with depression. This is what social psychologists from University of Massachusetts Ameherst found in their recent study. Having a supportive partner not only reduced the negative impacts of the depression or the external stress on their romantic relationship, stated the finding published in 'Social Psychological and Personality Science' journal.

The study found that being a responsive partner - one who focuses effort and energy to listen to their partner without reacting, tries to understand what's being expressed and be supportive in a helpful way and knows what their particular partner needs - is in general associated with better relationship quality, "which is what you would think," said Paula Pietromonaco, professor emerita of psychological and brain sciences at UMass Amherst, and co author of study. "But when people have a vulnerability like being depressed or having a lot of external stress, having a responsive partner seems to protect them against a sharp drop in relationship quality from one-time point to the next," she said.

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Pietromonaco was surprised that "although there's a ton of work out there on depression, there was very little in the literature looking at the kinds of behavior that partners could do that would buffer the detrimental effects of depression," she said. The other co-authors of the study were Nickola Overall, professor of psychology at the University of Auckland in New Zealand, and Sally Powers, professor emerita of psychological and brain sciences at UMass Amherst.

Pietromonaco drew on data from her Growth in Early Marriage project (GEM) to investigate what she had discovered was an understudied question. In the nearly three-year GEM study involving more than 200 newlywed couples, Pietromonaco and colleagues examined how couples change over time, and how their relationships affect health. During each annual visit to the lab, couples were videotaped while they discussed a major conflict in their relationship. The study was funded by the National Cancer Institute.

"The unique thing about our study is that we looked at responsiveness in terms of people's actual behavior, as opposed to their perceptions," Pietromonaco explained. The team used a very complex, intensive coding scheme that captures a whole range of behaviors that they can call responsive behavior, she added.

The researchers predicted that a person with signs of mild to moderate depression would experience a drop in marital quality from one year to the next during the study. "And that's what we saw. It was a big drop - five points," Pietromonaco said. Such a significant drop in relationship quality was not seen with people who had low depression scores and also partners who were low in responsiveness.

"If you were depressed and your partner was responsive, in the next wave your marital quality did not look any different from people who were not depressed," she said.

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Similarly, a person's external stress resulted in a drop in marital quality over time - unless their partner was found to be highly responsive, supportive, and accepting. "If your partner is high in responsiveness, you don't show any more of a decline than people who have low external stress. But if your partner is low in responsiveness, you drop an average of over seven points, and that is a large effect," Pietromonaco pointed out.

The new research advances Pietromonaco's previous work probing the couple-level dynamics of romantic relationships. "Each person's behavior and responsiveness and feelings affect the other person's, and they do so reciprocally," she explained.The paper concluded that "these findings underscore the importance of adopting a dyadic perspective to understand how partners' responsive behavior can overcome the harmful effects of personal and situational vulnerabilities on relationship outcomes."

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